it's been exactly a year since i started weekly IFS sessions with Selma and what a year it's been! before chancing upon Selma's profile via the algorithm gods on instagram, i had worked with FOUR different therapists (all in-person sessions) for four to six sessions each only to feel absolute frustration and a disconnect and resentment because the first three sessions were spent like this: them telling me to tell them my very long and complicated life/family history. at the end of every session, i would feel completely depleted and my anxiety would be through the roof because there was minimal input from the therapist and i would feel like i was beyond receiving help. shortly after seeing the fourth therapist and experiencing the same feeling of continued helplessness, i had written off therapy and was resigned to feeling miserable and unsafe for the rest of my life. after watching almost of Selma's reels on her instagram account over the span of a few days, i decided to give therapy one more go and i'm so grateful that i reached out to her because ever since that first session with Selma, i've been seeing her almost every week since then. i try my best not to do the "everyone SHOULD go for therapy" thing because access to therapy is a privilege not everyone has or can afford but if anyone WERE interested in starting therapy, i would strongly advise that they try IFS and IF they needed a recommendation for an IFS therapist, i would shout SELMA's name from the rooftops. since starting IFS therapy with Selma, it feels like i have grown so much over the past year to the point that my partner (who has always been resistant to therapy for himself because "he didn't have any trauma growing up, not the way i did") has expressed interest in trying IFS therapy too. Selma has been the most warm and compassionate guide and facilitator for me and my parts and we all feel completely safe and held when we're in session with her. i had initially wondered if online sessions would work for me because i had felt such a disconnect with my previous therapists despite being face to face in the same room but it continues to amaze me how attentive and attuned Selma is even through a computer screen. it is a testament to Selma's role as a therapist that i continue to show up every week for sessions. thank you Selma! ps: my parts are holding up placards and they read: Selma is a rockstar! Selma helps us feel safe! Selma is the adult we needed when we were kids!
det har gått exakt ett år sedan jag började veckovisa IFS-sessioner med Selma och vilket år det har varit! …